How much tax dollars went to fund this study that everyone already knew the answer to?...

Just Friends? Guys Reveal Sexual Interest in Gal Pals

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I don't know, why don't you do the research and post it?

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The most foolish mistake we could possibly make would be to permit the conquered Eastern peoples to have arms. History teaches that all conquerors who have allowed their subject races to carry arms have prepared their own downfall by doing so.

-- Hitler, April 11 1942

I agree with this.

Sexual chemistry is more than we realise and not just from appearance - it can also happen from simply knowing about a friend. And of course men are more sexually-driven than women. However, a male friend can probably subconsciously know how to push his female friend's button as to how to trigger her interest sexually in him.

The best romantic relationship comes from being friends first. That is why I found that joining dating sites is no good for me. There is too much underlying 'pressure' to hurry it into a romantic relationship whereas a genuine friendship which leads to something more serious is more likely (in my opinion) to succeed.

Also from a friendship to love both people are more aware of how the other half behaves, reacts, etc., so when it becomes a romantic relationship both are able to cope with the ups and downs of the relationship.

I will say that it is much easier for me to be friends with women because I don't find them sexually attractive. It's much more difficult to be friends with men. Not that I'm not friends with men, but I'm only friends with married men.

I just find it easier that way. Because I think, in any relationship, all sorts of unconscious information is transferred back and forth, and wires can get crossed... I want there to be no confusion. A crush is a crush, and ultimately meaningless. And I've crushed on my best friend. But who couldn't?! LOL

I think when you throw orientation into the mix in a conversation about sexual attraction in friendships, it becomes even more complicated.

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The most foolish mistake we could possibly make would be to permit the conquered Eastern peoples to have arms. History teaches that all conquerors who have allowed their subject races to carry arms have prepared their own downfall by doing so.

-- Hitler, April 11 1942

I find it easier to be friends with men than women, even though I am heterosexual, because I personally find that men are less judgmental, catty, bitchy and gossipy than women.

When I was an office temp if I was placed in an office of just all women I knew it would possibly be difficult to gel with the women, whereas if the office was mixed I knew I would be happier.

It sounds like I am a flirt - I am definitely not, but I am more comfortable in the company of men than women. I also feel there is (sometimes) a difference in the character of a married man than a single one. Married men are more relaxed in the company of women and therefore often easier to chat with.

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"Sometimes, the source of the beautiful dawning light that drives back the darkness, is your house burning"

I agree with the observations on why it is easier to be friends with men, especially married men. I will go a step further and say straight married men. It's terrible to say, but many gay men are just as catty, judgmental, bitchy and gossipy as women. Hell, I see that in myself from time to time and don't really care much for that trait. My best friend helps keep that in check by just making me aware that I'm being a bitch. LOL

I can work for a woman, with women, and all that jazz, but I prefer working with men. I think that's a communication thing. I think that I tend to communicate like a man in person and respond better to that communication. There are nuances to female communication that I don't get. Hell, that happens with my female friends all the time. They have learned to ask me directly or tell me directly because the stepping around an issue doesn't work. You tell me not to get you a present, I'm not getting you a present. You ask me if you look fat, I'm going to give you an honest answer. LOL So...

I am a flirt. Not with straight men. Well at least not when I find out they're straight. And not married men. Well at least not when I find out they're married. And if they're straight and married, that might as well be three strikes. Also, married men are more secure in themselves, from what I've noticed. I can have conversations with married men that single men run from. I think it's a perception issue.

I will tell you, that I have a great many female friends. But my best friend is a straight married man.

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The most foolish mistake we could possibly make would be to permit the conquered Eastern peoples to have arms. History teaches that all conquerors who have allowed their subject races to carry arms have prepared their own downfall by doing so.

-- Hitler, April 11 1942

I agree with a lot of your post. I would also say that camp gay men are more likely to have the female (catty, bitchy etc) traits whereas the non-camp men don't. Don't fret too much about your traits, as it is not something you need to change and fortunately your partner is tolerant - it is part of what makes your relationship so solid.

That has been my observation as well. Alas, we live in an era when friendship of any kind or at any stage is generally trivialized. And so, it is often prevented from growing and maturing.

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“Quod scripsi, scripsi"

"Sometimes, the source of the beautiful dawning light that drives back the darkness, is your house burning"

Well I, for one, am a big believer in friendship. I have seen the positive impacts of friendship on my life. I've had lovers that have come and gone, and we hand wonderful times that have influenced me, but nothing is so dear to me as the relationship I have with my closest friends. They have been there through cancer, anxiety, law school, when those that I thought I loved were not strong enough to carry on and fight for our relationship, they were there. Damned shame I always befriend those who will never be lovers. It's an interesting dichotomy, those two relationships.

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The most foolish mistake we could possibly make would be to permit the conquered Eastern peoples to have arms. History teaches that all conquerors who have allowed their subject races to carry arms have prepared their own downfall by doing so.

-- Hitler, April 11 1942