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Old 12-12-2017, 11:29 PM
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I read the original article Things Every Intersectional Feminist Should Ask On a First Date in its entirety before coming across this article discussing it. I'm familiar with the ridiculous terms cisgender (which means normal) and non-binary (which translates to abnormal or mentally ill), but I have no idea what the hell an intersectional feminist is. I imagine it's not something I would identify with. Lara Witt, who wrote the article referenced in this one also isn't someone I could identify with or even like.

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“The following list of questions is applicable to all relationships — certainly not just cisgender, heterosexual ones,” writes the self-identified “queer femme of color,” who says her close relationships with her “accomplices” revolve around the “fight against white supremacy, queerphobia, and misogyny.”

Do you believe that Black Lives Matter?

Of course they do. Just as anyone else’s life matters. That said, Witt argues that any man you date must “decenter their whiteness (if they’re white)” and learn about social justice issues because ignorance of “white privilege” and “non-black privilege” are “non-negotiable.”

What are your thoughts on gender and sexual orientation?

“One out of many important elements to dismantling patriarchy is to abolish gender roles as well as the limited understanding that we have about sexuality and gender itself,” writes Witt, who argues that she wouldn’t want to be with anyone “queer phobic.”

Because surely, the reason anyone wants to get into a relationship isn’t to be with someone, but to fight the patriarchy.

How do you work to dismantle sexism and misogyny in your life?

If you aren’t yelling at biology professors, smashing Starbucks windows, attending Women’s Marches and strutting around at Slut Walks then you clearly aren’t doing enough.

Projecting her own bad experiences with men, Witt says that she’s met “cisgender heteronormative” men who “hate women.”

“They say they love women, but that love is conditional on not having their toxic masculinity questioned or threatened in any way,” says Witt. “And they love us as a monolith, they love what women have to offer, whether it is sex, food, love, care, emotional labor: they love us for what we can do for them, not because of who we are for ourselves. It is crucial for cishet men to learn how to decenter their male privilege in order for them to understand the multitudes of interpretations of femininity and womanhood.”

In other words, if you’re not willing to give up your job to a Latinx femme-identifying genderfluid woman with self-diagnosed mental illnesses, you’re part of the white supremacist cis-hetero patriarchy.
You can read the entire article here:
https://www.dangerous.com/38338/femi...g-dating-tips/
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bump for later. I have a lot of thoughts about males dominance feminism etc. just too late today for such
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I read the original article Things Every Intersectional Feminist Should Ask On a First Date in its entirety before coming across this article discussing it.
Well, no surprise it's queer.

That guide is how to ensure a long, sad life with three cats, Chinese delivery and a Hitachi Magic Wand (or a bed-hopping lesbian lifestyle with similarly minded screw-ups).

Either way no loss . . .
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I read the original article Things Every Intersectional Feminist Should Ask On a First Date in its entirety before coming across this article discussing it. I'm familiar with the ridiculous terms cisgender (which means normal) and non-binary (which translates to abnormal or mentally ill), but I have no idea what the hell an intersectional feminist is. I imagine it's not something I would identify with. Lara Witt, who wrote the article referenced in this one also isn't someone I could identify with or even like.
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“The following list of questions is applicable to all relationships — certainly not just cisgender, heterosexual ones,” writes the self-identified “queer femme of color,” who says her close relationships with her “accomplices” revolve around the “fight against white supremacy, queerphobia, and misogyny.”

Do you believe that Black Lives Matter?

Of course they do. Just as anyone else’s life matters. That said, Witt argues that any man you date must “decenter their whiteness (if they’re white)” and learn about social justice issues because ignorance of “white privilege” and “non-black privilege” are “non-negotiable.”

What are your thoughts on gender and sexual orientation?

“One out of many important elements to dismantling patriarchy is to abolish gender roles as well as the limited understanding that we have about sexuality and gender itself,” writes Witt, who argues that she wouldn’t want to be with anyone “queer phobic.”

Because surely, the reason anyone wants to get into a relationship isn’t to be with someone, but to fight the patriarchy.

How do you work to dismantle sexism and misogyny in your life?

If you aren’t yelling at biology professors, smashing Starbucks windows, attending Women’s Marches and strutting around at Slut Walks then you clearly aren’t doing enough.

Projecting her own bad experiences with men, Witt says that she’s met “cisgender heteronormative” men who “hate women.”

“They say they love women, but that love is conditional on not having their toxic masculinity questioned or threatened in any way,” says Witt. “And they love us as a monolith, they love what women have to offer, whether it is sex, food, love, care, emotional labor: they love us for what we can do for them, not because of who we are for ourselves. It is crucial for cishet men to learn how to decenter their male privilege in order for them to understand the multitudes of interpretations of femininity and womanhood.”

In other words, if you’re not willing to give up your job to a Latinx femme-identifying genderfluid woman with self-diagnosed mental illnesses, you’re part of the white supremacist cis-hetero patriarchy.

You can read the entire article here:
https://www.dangerous.com/38338/femi...g-dating-tips/
Any man (or woman) worth dating knows blacks are not in the same socioeconomic advantage as whites. and that women are paid less and overlooked in the workplace. but that things are changing and awareness is up.
Anyone worth dating were I single and not totally disinterested in pursuing that goal, knows there are gay people, bi and trans people and a secure male does not try to pretend otherwise or hate those individuals on the basis of those statuses.
I've met men who seem to hate women but manage to steer around them
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Being alone is not a bad thing, if that is what one chooses. But basing your life on some rather screw up principals (as listed) has got to be depressing.

Many relationships do quite well based on companionship. Romantic relationships, while fun, are only fun as long as the sex and romance lasts. Being single does not necessarily equal lonesome. Another misconception of the world at large.
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Being alone is not a bad thing, if that is what one chooses. But basing your life on some rather screw up principals (as listed) has got to be depressing.

Many relationships do quite well based on companionship. Romantic relationships, while fun, are only fun as long as the sex and romance lasts. Being single does not necessarily equal lonesome. Another misconception of the world at large.
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