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Reproductive Rights: How I Failed My Granddaughter

Karin Kasdin
03/28/2012


Dear Kyla,

I want you to know, darling granddaughter, that I tried. So many of us worked so hard for so long that I confess to getting a bit cocky. And cocksure that our daughters would inhabit a world where no man would dare speak for them about their reproductive rights.

But your mother's most sacred private space, her body, is even less safe from political interference than your grandmother's was. And now here you are, a tiny pink bundle of trust, and I am left with nothing to say but "I'm sorry." I'm sorry that as you grow up I will beseech you, dearest girl, to carry the mantle, when, after more than a century of women's rights activism, your generation should be able to relax.

Fifty-one years elapsed between 1869 when Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton founded the National Women's Suffrage Association and 1920 when the 19th amendment, granting women the right to vote, was ratified. Ninety-six years have passed since Margaret Sanger was arrested for running the first birth control clinic. NINETY-SIX YEARS!!! What is taking so damn long for women's bodies to become sacrosanct?

When it comes time for Mommy to teach you about the private parts of your body, she might have to add our government to the list of perverts she will caution you about. I'm so sorry. The funny thing is, some of the very same people who want our government to stay out of our wallets, our workplaces, and our windows, think it's just fine to invade our uteruses. When women protest the idea of being forced to look at pictures of the fetuses we've agonizingly decided to abort, we're told by a United States governor to "just close our eyes." And when the matter of whether or not insurance for contraception interferes with religious freedom comes up for congressional debate, not one woman is invited to sit on the panel.

Soon you will learn to speak. Speak up! Choose your words carefully because words have infinite power, but don't ever be afraid to voice your opinion. And be warned, little girl. Some men may call you awful names when you speak your mind. That is something that has not changed. Some of the men who insult you will do it on the radio or television so millions of people can hear them spew their vitriol. These men won't simply disagree with your opinions, Kyla. They may call you a slut or a prostitute simply for having opinions that diverge from their own. You don't even have to be political to get insulted.

Here's the really bad news. Sometimes even men whose opinions you AGREE with will use bad words to describe women. There was a vice-presidential candidate not too long ago, whom I never would have voted for in a million years. And there is a male comedian who called her the "C" word even though that word has nothing to do with her politics or ideas or even about how smart or not smart she was. That comedian is on MY side of the political debate! You never know, sweetheart. You just never know.

The fight isn't over, baby. Not by a long shot. It's true that things aren't as bleak as they once were. We have a woman secretary of state, for the third time! Women are entering male-dominated professions in greater numbers every year. Still, we earn only 81 cents for every dollar earned by men. And worldwide, only 2 percent of the 4,200 companies analyzed by GovernanceMetrics International, are chaired by female directors. Go to work, Kyla. Contribute.

But again, be warned. If you work outside the home, people like Rick Santorum won't like you very much, and will accuse you of undermining the integrity of the American family by being part of "radical feminism's misogynistic crusade to make working outside the home the only marker of social value and self-respect."

So you see, honey, Grandma's generation didn't get the job done. Neither did Mom's. We have let you down and now we are passing the baton. Please take your time growing up. Enjoy the blessed life you have been granted. But when the right time comes, seize the moment to seize the day. And I will be beside you every step of the way. Together we will mouth off, and write letters, and support pro-woman candidates. Together we will cling to the hope that the daughters of your generation will be able to relax.

I love you,
Grammy


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This really resonated with me.
I too have a granddaughter, and I've been feeling for some time that her human and civil rights are going to be less secure than mine, due to the complacency of my generation.
My rights were fought for and won by my mother's and grandmother's generations. But by the 90s, when I became a woman, there didn't seem to be anything left to fight for. It seemed the fight for equal rights had been won. I couldn't have been more wrong, and I'm afraid that because of my misperception, my granddaughter and other females being born today will be reduced to the slaves, chattel, domestic breeding stock, and second-class citizens that females have historically always been.
I know other women of my generation are sensing the same thing- this backsliding- and are waking up from their long complacent sleep to the fact that the fight is far from over; that if we don't stand our ground and defend our rights, we will lose everything our mothers and grandmothers fought so hard for. Women are beginning to take a stand against the erosion, the gradual chiseling away of their civil rights, which once seemed petty to the point of irrelevance but which clearly adds up over time.

Like the author, I want my granddaughter to grow up as free and empowered- as certain of her value as a human being- as I was and am.
I just hope it's not too late.
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Oh granddaughter, how lucky for you that when you were a "a tiny pink bundle of trust" inside your mother, where she put you, she didn’t decide on lark that you were nothing special, nothing unique nothing alive and didn't have you burned and congealed with chemicals diced into pieces and flushed away with the other offal. count yourself lucky little girl, that whilst you were defenseless, friendless, no one drove scissors into your brain ad emptied your soft little skull like an overripe fruit.

And fight for your rights to this power in your own season. Are we not gods?
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Lucky for you that when you were a "a tiny pink bundle of trust" inside your mother, where she put you, she doidn't decida on alrk tht you werre nothing special, nothing unique nothing alive and didn't have you burned and congealed with chemicals diced into pieces and flushed away with the other offal. count yourself lucky little girl, that whilst you were defensless, friendless, no one drove scissors into your brain ad emptied your soft little skull like an overripe friut.

And fight for your rights to this power in your own seasson. Are we not gods?
I don't consider myself lucky that I was born; I don't consider life to be any big treat.
I was born post-Roe, so I know that it was my mother's choice to carry me to term. If I ever discovered that she had been forced to gestate and give birth to me against her will, I would not want to live. I would prefer to be dead than to know that I was the instrument of another woman's dehumanization.
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This really resonated with me.
I too have a granddaughter, and I've been feeling for some time that her human and civil rights are going to be less secure than mine, due to the complacency of my generation.
My rights were fought for and won by my mother's and grandmother's generations. But by the 90s, when I became a woman, there didn't seem to be anything left to fight for. It seemed the fight for equal rights had been won. I couldn't have been more wrong, and I'm afraid that because of my misperception, my granddaughter and other females being born today will be reduced to the slaves, chattel, domestic breeding stock, and second-class citizens that females have historically always been.
I know other women of my generation are sensing the same thing- this backsliding- and are waking up from their long complacent sleep to the fact that the fight is far from over; that if we don't stand our ground and defend our rights, we will lose everything our mothers and grandmothers fought so hard for. Women are beginning to take a stand against the erosion, the gradual chiseling away of their civil rights, which once seemed petty to the point of irrelevance but which clearly adds up over time.

Like the author, I want my granddaughter to grow up as free and empowered- as certain of her value as a human being- as I was and am.
I just hope it's not too late.
It's never too late. Women of today might not know the details of the rights the women of my generation fought for, but they know what it is to have those rights.

When we were fighting for those rights we were called many nasty things and, back then, no one ever apologized.
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Oh granddaughter, how lucky for you that when you were a "a tiny pink bundle of trust" inside your mother, where she put you, she didn’t decide on lark that you were nothing special, nothing unique nothing alive and didn't have you burned and congealed with chemicals diced into pieces and flushed away with the other offal. count yourself lucky little girl, that whilst you were defenseless, friendless, no one drove scissors into your brain ad emptied your soft little skull like an overripe fruit.

And fight for your rights to this power in your own season. Are we not gods?
No, we are not gods. We are not the property of the government either, or under any obligation to donate the use of our bodies for someone else's benefit.

That is our decision. Not the governments. Or our husbands. Or our boyfriends. Or anyone else's.

We are women.
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No, we are not gods. We are not the property of the government either, or under any obligation to donate the use of our bodies for someone else's benefit.

That is our decision. Not the governments. Or our husbands. Or our boyfriends. Or anyone else's.

We are women.
Exactly comrade, we have no obligation to care for our children. We build a better tomorrow by slaughtering them for our convenience.
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I was thinking about how I should write an equally emotional-but-thoughtless piece on how I should tell my future grandchildren how we've failed them for tossing them back into the lion's den at the coliseum after religious convictions have come so far, but then I thought, "Why drop to their level?"...
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