My Husband and I Made a Sex Contract
After the birth of our first child, my libido plummeted. Things went from bad to worse in my relationship, and my husband was accusing me of abandoning him. So I made a sex agreement: Twice a week, Iíd do it, whether I felt like it or not. It sounds sort of brutal, but I love him and didnít want to lose him over sex. And it turned out that once I got started, I always felt better. Pretty soon we didnít have to schedule it anymore, and after we had our second kid, it was easier to get back on the horse. Now we have a good sex life and Iím glad we stuck to it. But I know it would have sounded pretty weird to my earlier single self.
Not a bad idea actually...
when one-half of a relationship finds sex obligatory and the other side denies it, the whole relationship usually falls apart. One side goes distanat; the other side finds their "release" elsewhere...Making sure it's part of the program shows a REAL commitment...