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Being Barack means never having to say you’re sorry

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Yesterday, I wrote about apologies, and why we do or don’t accept them. The context there was the Sarah Palin / David Letterman clusterf–k, which seems to be over now (save for Dave’s getting a week’s worth of bits out of it).

But, this morning, it’s got me thinking about apologies in the public sphere in general. And why our behavior with regard to public figures that disappoint us is so robotically predictable.

Take President Obama’s announcement that he’ll direct the federal government to start providing same-sex partner benefits to the federal workforce. While not an apology, per se, it’s essentially a conciliatory gesture for a series of actions he’s taken to — not to put too fine a point on it — screw the gay community:

* First, he stood on the sidelines as the African American community in California pushed Proposition 8 over the top, stripping gay couples and families in that state of their civil rights.

* Second, he abandoned his pledge to reverse don’t-ask-don’t-tell in the military.

* Third, he filed an extremely damaging brief in federal court supporting the Defense of Marriage Act, invoking tropes about incest marriage and arguing that DOMA is good for the federal budget (it keeps all those pesky gay partners from collecting Social Security).

Now, he wants the gay community and supporters of gay rights in general to take this as an apology and as sufficient recompense for the previous (and ongoing) screwing of gays in other areas. And, you know what, they (we) will pretty much take it. Just like with Bill Clinton, who did even more to screw gay people (and interns, yes, got that out of my system).

Sure, there will be some angry blog posts written. Sure, some of Obama’s gay supporters will try to work up some anger. But, at the end of the day, for most of them, their hearts won’t be in it.

Why?

Well, it goes back to what I wrote yesterday about why we accept apologies from some people and don’t accept them from others. If we generally like someone — and the vast majority of gay people like Obama and voted for him — we’re far more likely to accept an apology from them. And, we’re more likely to believe that their intent was good, and thus we’re even more likely to forgive them.


[By the same token, if you didn't like President Bush, you were certainly never going to forgive him for supporting the Federal Marriage Amendment (even though Bush only fake-supported it to appease his base and then made sure it never moved forward in Congress — arguably making him better on gay rights than Clinton).]

Another factor at work is the “false consensus bias.” It’s a shame the things Obama has had to do out of political necessity, you tell yourself, but I know deep down he cares about gay rights and is just “playing a long game” — he’ll do what he can when he can. Deep down, he’s on the same page as me. Of course, this is bull. Experiments have shown that we’re all terrible intuitive psychologists and extremely prone to projecting our views onto others (that is, in the absence of evidence, we assume people think what we do).

Obama, in fact, has really been the master of false consensus bias. Does he support charter schools? Well, I support charter schools, and he’s given me enough material to pretend he agrees with me. At the same time, a teachers union official somewhere out there believes he really plans to strangle charter schools in their crib. Does he support affirmative action? Gun rights? Gun control? Socialism? Market capitalism? On dozens of issues, millions of Americans have attributed their own views to President Obama. Now that’s how you get elected.

Add in a dash of cognitive dissonance — I voted for Obama, I support gay rights, Obama must support gay rights — and you’ve got the perfect storm.

Will Obama be able to placate the gay community? Being Barack means never having to say you’re sorry.
gays should be ripping Obama a new one with double the veracity they did with Bush...

...But they'll stay silent...giving him a second, third, and fourth chance...

Just like the National Organization for Women did with Bill Clinton...suck up for politics and throw principles by the wayside...
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Old 06-18-2009, 08:02 AM
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Damn. If we could only get them to hate him quicker.
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A gay guy catches on...

Being Barack means never having to say you’re sorry

gays should be ripping Obama a new one with double the veracity they did with Bush...

...But they'll stay silent...giving him a second, third, and fourth chance...

Just like the National Organization for Women did with Bill Clinton...suck up for politics and throw principles by the wayside...
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* First, he stood on the sidelines as the African American community in California pushed Proposition 8 over the top, stripping gay couples and families in that state of their civil rights.
As well he should have, it was a state proposition, was not unique to the African American community (not that that should matter either) - as president of the U.S. he'd have no business getting involved.

The gay community was not happy with Bush, or Clinton, nor are they happy with Obama.

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* Second, he abandoned his pledge to reverse don’t-ask-don’t-tell in the military.
Just as Clinton did. They should be, and are I'm sure, upset about this.

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Take President Obama’s announcement that he’ll direct the federal government to start providing same-sex partner benefits to the federal workforce. While not an apology, per se, it’s essentially a conciliatory gesture for a series of actions he’s taken to — not to put too fine a point on it — screw the gay community:
What kind of mush-brained R-tard even constructed that sentence. Obama has done nothing to screw the gay community, he's simply not gone out of his way to give them what they want - in some cases not living up to his campaign promises.

What, Obama, a typical politician? Who'd have thunk it?

His action to direct federal benefits to same-sex partners is not an apology - and it is more than Bush1, Bush2, or Clinton ever did for the gay community... so if you're wondering why the aren't completely disgruntled with Obama, despite not being happy with him... there's your answer - not exactly rocket science is it.

Not to mention the fact that the guy hasn't been in office but 150 days... hmm... worst financial crisis in modern history, war on terror, failing healthcare system... maybe the gay community's desires aren't exactly at the top of the list.

Post this again in 3.5 years when he still hasn't made good on his promises - and if the gay community is still placated by his half-hearted gestures - then I'll agree with you.
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Not to mention the fact that the guy hasn't been in office but 150 days... hmm... worst financial crisis in modern history, war on terror, failing healthcare system... maybe the gay community's desires aren't exactly at the top of the list.
He promised he would get rid of "Don't Ask - Don't Tell".

It would take him less than 20 seconds to sign an executive order suspending the policy.
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He promised he would get rid of "Don't Ask - Don't Tell".

It would take him less than 20 seconds to sign an executive order suspending the policy.
Yup. Every president-to-be makes a lot of promises they either intend or don't intend to keep... and ultimately don't keep them.

It might take him 20 seconds to sign the order - but I'm sure there are ramifications of doing so that are preventing him from doing it. How many top generals might resign? How much money would it cost to give homosexual sensitivity training to the current troops to prevent all the hate crimes that will inevitably occur as a result.

I'm just surprised the military isn't begging Obama to change the policy, as bad as they are hurting for new recruits, I'd think they'd benefit in terms of numbers of enlistments if it was changed...

But who knows. Maybe Obama is a homophobe that lied to get elected.

I think it is funny that the right, who was critical of Obama because he was courting the gay constituency, was upset that he'd be too pro gay... now they criticize him for NOT following through with his promise to the gay community - as if they actually give a $h!t.

of course Obama is just another typical politician, making campaign promises with no intention of keeping them - if I had thought he was sincere during the election, I MIGHT have voted for him... but I knew back then he wasn't, and stated as much in a number of forums I was posting on at the time.
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I think it's funny that gays make excuses for him.
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A gay guy catches on...

Being Barack means never having to say you’re sorry

gays should be ripping Obama a new one with double the veracity they did with Bush...
...But they'll stay silent...giving him a second, third, and fourth chance...

You quote a gay guy criticizing him on it.
But then you generalize an opposite response.

I've seen quite a few gay blogs pissed at Obama on the issue.
There is a gay / Democrat fund-raiser coming up, and people are talking about it as to whether or not there will be some boycotting backlash.
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He promised he would get rid of "Don't Ask - Don't Tell".
It would take him less than 20 seconds to sign an executive order suspending the policy.
This is actually false.
Congress passed a law (under Clinton) excluding gays from the military.

Clinton turned around and gave "relevance" to the law. Or rather, he lowered the relevance of the law...
Before Clinton, the military treated the law as something primary to pursue enforcement upon. Asking it upon entrance into the military, whereas questions on other military law violations are not asked.
It's also against military law for adultery, but they don't ask that in the entrance.
They don't set up stings to enforce against military adultery.

Obama can't say "this law doesn't exist".
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This is actually false.

Obama can't say "this law doesn't exist".
He DOES have the power to suspend it.
He hasn't.

Under claim of authority over the military he CAN .
Presidential executive orders have the force and effect of law.

I think it's funny that you're defending him.
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He DOES have the power to suspend it.
He hasn't.
Under claim of authority over the military he CAN .
Presidential executive orders have the force and effect of law.
I think it's funny that you're defending him.
I'm just recognizing the facts.

So Congress passes a law, and you think that can just go away by waving a President's hands?
If CLINTON had been the one to say "The military needs to abide by this rule I created", then I would agree with you.
But Congress passed a law, which Clinton actually signed (for which I am pissed at him, but understand the circumstances).

The following web-site gives a description. I think they're crap as far as their attitude towards gays in the military, but they are spot-on regarding the implications of the legal situation.
Contrary to inaccurate news reports, which persist to this day, the DADT policy that President Clinton formally proposed on July 19, 1993, was never adopted or codified in law. (See letter from Rep. Steve Buyer, Chairman of the House Armed Services Military Personnel Subcommittee, excerpted below.)

The only compromise accepted in 1993 was to omit "the question" about homosexuality that used to appear with other routine inquiries on induction forms. Congress nevertheless authorized restoration of the question by a future Secretary of Defense, without additional legislation. ....

Language of the 1993 law, which was passed with bi-partisan, veto-proof majorities, is substantially the same as Defense Department (DoD) regulations in effect since 1981, twelve years before Clinton took office. Those regulations, which previously had been upheld by the federal courts as constitutional, set out several reasons why homosexuals are not eligible for military service. Most news reports and commentaries, unfortunately, do not mention the statute or the sound premises on which it is based. The New York Times erroneously reported, for example, that the president’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy is "now enshrined in law." (Dec. 25, 1999)
Center for Military Readiness | Homosexuals in the Military

What exists as a LEGISLATED LAW was passed by Congress. Obama is commander in chief, but he couldn't arbitrarily change laws enacted by Congress.
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