what a shame that you only see one segment of the community

in my world, that's the DEFINITION of shallow



if the only people in the gay community you meet are the ones you describe, you need to move

frankly, your post exemplifies bitchy, catty, overdramatic and shallow

maybe it's true - we hate in others that which we fear is part of ourselves

Frankly, I don't give a good god damned what you think at this point.

by your rudeness and mean-spirited comments, you make it quite clear that you don't give a damn what anybody thinks

which is okay

but then to lash out at others because of their "attitude" is just a bit hypocritical

but - whatever - I know you're always right, and I'm not interested enough to turn this into one of your cat fights where you throw anti-gay slurs at me.

Blah blah blah. That's your new mantra "I'm not interested enough to debate an issue because ______insert random excuse here______."

I haven't thrown the first anti-gay slur at you. If I made any comment about the way you were acting, it was a comment about that, not your orientation. Yet I distinctly remember you being one of the ones that threw out the "self loathing homosexual" with a great deal of glee and alacrity. But hey...whatever. You and the rest of the Magenta Mafia can think whatever you want.

Well, now we've started with the red fonts? Guess that means we have about 2 more posts before you throw your hands on your hips and claim to leave here for good like you do every other time there is conflict.

Let me know what time you plan to sashay out. I don't want to miss the performance.

well, I guess you told me.

why dont' we just say that I used the colored font to differentiate my responses to your words for EVERYBODY ELSE, and you, in your infinitely superior wisdom just has to live through it for the rest of us lowly humans.

by the way - any more nasty gay bashing comments to make?

edited to add: why is it that YOU are always involved in EVERY "conflict?"

I'm slightly self-loathing in my sexuality. I wish I had a sexuality that meshed with "normal" culture, whatever "normal" is supposed to be, but I don't.

For many years I have struggled to get over my fear of femininity. I still seem to associate femininity with being superficial. I associate the type of femininity that I see typically in the male gay community with the type of person that goes to bathhouses a lot as well as being superficial.

I don't understand why so many people feel they need to suddenly become swish-your-hands-feminine when they come out of the closet. It's one thing to be care-free, but it's another thing completely to play a part until it actually becomes part of who you are. That whole swish click "you HAVE to accept me or you're just a bigot!" mindset is not something that just comes naturally to people--it's something they learn to do through the community, just like people of all races learn how to act "ebonics" and gangster-savvy (but it is most prevalent in black communities).

I would REALLY like for there to be more role models for gay men that AREN'T swishy. On a thread on my forum, someone had mentioned that gay people want to be their own role models--well, I thought about that and actually, I think EVERYONE would prefer to be their own role models--it still doesn't mean that the role models that are pushed out by media don't have an effect on us.

I wish gay men had something to connect with than the stereotypes of the gay community when they are coming out of the closet. It would make it so people wouldn't just have swishy role models--because let's face it--if those are the main examples people have when they're coming out, they're going to feel that THAT is what it means to be a gay man, and it's not.

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I never made a gay bashing comment. Why do you feel the need to lie so easily?

That's awesome. I hope you stick around here but prepare to be dog-piled by the Pink Posse if you do. They no likey when someone expresses opinions different from the Gay Agenda.