I wasn't intending to bring this up, and certainly not publicly, but since someone else did...

For the record, when you refer to me in a way that minimizes me, I find it disrespectful and offensive. When you minimize my opinions or arguments by calling me "cute," it sends the message that you consider me to be inferior to you.

Before you roll your eyes and say "yeah, right," consider that a neutral third party, IP, a person I have never spoken with, quickly picked up on it independently. (IP, thank you for defending me.)

You should not assume that the lack of direct negative feedback from me on your comments means that I approve of or enjoy them. If I stopped to write you a private note every time you said something to or about me that I found disrespectful, so we could discuss it in detail, I wouldn't have much time left to do anything else on this forum.

I regret making my picture and some personal details available to you, because it appears that has permanently colored your view of me. Your perceptions of my values, beliefs, and opinions, the ONLY things I am here to talk about, have clearly been negatively affected by your knowledge of my physical appearance, and the fact that I am gay.

I have to wonder how differently you would treat me if I espoused the exact same views, but you thought I was a 40 year old, fat, balding, straight male.