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Originally Posted by crazyflamingos
Here are some of the reasons that I have gleaned from various conversations and readings on why people have children. Some of them are also representative of my own feelings on why I would have had children had I chosen to do so.
Most of them seem pretty selfish to me.
Perhaps you know of other reasons that are not so selfish.
- Some have children because they believe it brings meaning and purpose to their life.
- Some have children because the birth control failed.
- Some have children so there will be someone to care about them in old age
- Some have children from narcissism; they want to mold someone in their own image.
- Some want sons to carry on the family name after the parents die.
- Some have children because they simply love children and want someone to care for. (Much like some of us keep pets)
- Some have children because they think that's what you do when you grow up;spouse, family or friends may tell them that is what they are supposed to do.
- Some have a child in a misguided effort to hold on to a failing relationship
- Some have a child because they feel unloved and believe their own child will have to love them unconditionally.
- Some fear leaving this life with nothing to show for it and have children to leave a mark on the world.
- And in addition to all of these reasons is the universal reason, biological imperative; it is an instinct to reproduce.
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Well they are all selfish reasons and ones that from at least the people I know have NEVER said one of.
I have children and I had them in the hopes that they will add good to this world.