Originally Posted by SHOSHANA
I agree with this.
Sexual chemistry is more than we realise and not just from appearance - it can also happen from simply knowing about a friend. And of course men are more sexually-driven than women. However, a male friend can probably subconsciously know how to push his female friend's button as to how to trigger her interest sexually in him.
The best romantic relationship comes from being friends first. That is why I found that joining dating sites is no good for me. There is too much underlying 'pressure' to hurry it into a romantic relationship whereas a genuine friendship which leads to something more serious is more likely (in my opinion) to succeed.
Also from a friendship to love both people are more aware of how the other half behaves, reacts, etc., so when it becomes a romantic relationship both are able to cope with the ups and downs of the relationship.
I will say that it is much easier for me to be friends with women because I don't find them sexually attractive. It's much more difficult to be friends with men. Not that I'm not friends with men, but I'm only friends with married men.
I just find it easier that way. Because I think, in any relationship, all sorts of unconscious information is transferred back and forth, and wires can get crossed... I want there to be no confusion. A crush is a crush, and ultimately meaningless. And I've crushed on my best friend. But who couldn't?! LOL
I think when you throw orientation into the mix in a conversation about sexual attraction in friendships, it becomes even more complicated.