Let me tell you why what you just said was completely wrong, even though you didn't even say what your theory was...
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Seriously though, I saw a show that had two people talking about what could be interpreted as "gayity", and "repression" / *natural* expression.

One theorized that some gays typically artificially repressed their "gayity" because they they wanted to blend in with average expectations in society. i.e. gays are more inclined to be "gay"

Another theorized that gays actually are more in fitting with "average expectations in society", and that people were artifically inflating "gayity" to help establish themselves to other gay people as gay, as a way of finding potential partners and other social identification means.
i.e. gays are less inclined to be "gay"

Both were gay, with two completely opposing arguments.

So to put it briefly, of course you're gonna get arguments no matter what your position is...
You're just plain screwed!