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Originally Posted by saltwn
How about a society that says we will pay into a system that will help the poor and disadvantaged, but not allow a transition period if a woman with children gets married? Doesn't that promote not getting married? And the same society sends people to her house to see if there is a man living there. If so, she is cut off from help with school, daycare, food stamps and of course monetary assistance. So the male role model is out the door or they have to play a cat and mouse game with the welfare system.
How about the fact a white male who is not Hispanic can't get any assistance at all? He might tend to resent his female counterpart, I would think.
Also there is tons of assistance out there for women and for kids. And that's great. I don't see a lot of stuff for men, fathers, husbands, boyfriends, teen aged boys...
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I hate to use TV shows as a reference, but I remember seeing one once that had a single mother who was employed, and trying to keep her kids.
She couldn't make ends meet with the bills, and seeing adequate care for her kids while she was at work, and she didn't have anywhere else to turn to.
She was trying to fight the legal system that was trying to take her kids away.
Eventually, the lawyer in the story-line told her to quit her job and go back on welfare. It actually put her in a better position to raise her kids and pay her bills.
And as a side-note, I remember initially laughing when I saw Dan Quayle's statement on the Murphy Brown issue.
Later in life, I realized more clearly what he was REALLY getting at, and wish he had chosen his words more clearly. (Although, I think his words were intelligibly aimed when he made the comments.)
Single mother-hood is NOT easy.
For a woman like "Murphy Brown" who has the luxury of being able to hire a live-in nanny and owning her own place, it is more feasible.
But for the NORMAL woman in society, bringing in enough money to pay for the roof overhead, pay for the daycare, pay for the car, pay for meds if kid gets sick, pay for ...
(The same is obviously true for the "single father", but considering the reality of "single parent care" in our country, I believe the single mothers far outnumber the single fathers.)
It's not an easy life.